Are you feeling that people keep getting themselves away from you and not willing to tell you what’s wrong? It’s not practical and it’s really bad when you want people to tell you whats wrong and what you had done wrong but people who are not willing to point out your mistake are really common. Unless they are too close to you and they ensure that you are the person that can accept critics and judgmental comment without any problem at all.
Rather than waiting for others to tell you what’s wrong with you, you need to know a list of toxic behavior that can make people stay further away from you. Learning all these toxic behavior won’t make you perfect, but at least you can reduce a list of mistakes that people doesn’t want, and it could be hard for you to realize them without anyone telling you.
Telling your negative life story doesn’t make you a negative person, but when you hold onto it all the time, did not put too much effort or the right effort solving them, and then repeat the same story to everyone, you eventually make people feel that you are a person with a sad life, every time they in touch of you, they gotta listen to the same negative thing again. Do remember that everyone has their own difficult life too.
You have to face this, no matter how emotional you felt like, everyone is innocent when they are not the key reason for you to be emotional.
This is commonly happen between a salesman and his customer. Some salesman try to get closer to their targeted customer to explain their products or services even though the customer reject him and trying to walk away. As the salesman trying to get much closer to explain more and hope that the customer will stop and listen, the customer walk faster instead. Same concept.
It's the same when you repeat same type of problem to others even if you know what is wrong and how you should deal with it, refuse to solve the problem give the impression that you are living with the same problem all the time, and most likely you will fall into a deep cycle of endless problem later in your life.
People prefer to be more relax and less cautious being with a person. It's difficult for a person to breath when they had their mask on, and it's tough for others because they couldn't what is the hidden expression behind those masks.
You don’t need to list out all the specific details of your effort, but you need to be able to explain to people what you had learnt and experience even if you can’t achieve the expected result, rather than saying “I tried my best” and expect people to belief so.
Read more...Rather than waiting for others to tell you what’s wrong with you, you need to know a list of toxic behavior that can make people stay further away from you. Learning all these toxic behavior won’t make you perfect, but at least you can reduce a list of mistakes that people doesn’t want, and it could be hard for you to realize them without anyone telling you.
1. Exaggerate Behavior in Public
This include screaming as loud as you want, singing anytime or anywhere (especially if your voice is not that nice), grabbing other people stuff, adding or tagging people on Facebook without permission, and etc. To make the list longer, you can try to recall how people in the public irritates you and you thought that they should not behave that way which can disturb the others.2. You make yourself a negative person
People prefer to meet people who are rich with joy and happiness in their life. Everyone do have their own time when they face obstacles and sadness. But people do not want to see you repeating about your own negative emotion and listening to your same sad life story every single time.Telling your negative life story doesn’t make you a negative person, but when you hold onto it all the time, did not put too much effort or the right effort solving them, and then repeat the same story to everyone, you eventually make people feel that you are a person with a sad life, every time they in touch of you, they gotta listen to the same negative thing again. Do remember that everyone has their own difficult life too.
3. You are too emotional
When people ask something from you, and you reply them with rage or an excessive manner, and then you make the result of your response way too much comparing to how people ask you in the beginning. That’s how you make it too emotional. No one like to be treated emotionally, especially when they keep experiencing your emotional response too many times, and often they are not informed about your reason for being emotional.You have to face this, no matter how emotional you felt like, everyone is innocent when they are not the key reason for you to be emotional.
4. Your judgements are always based on fallacies or own opinion
Nothing wrong having your own judgement, but becareful with emphasizing too much in a subject with extreme thoughts that differ from real life facts. People dislike unrealistic explanation that are produced greatly depending on one person mindset or point of view. It's the same with you, for example, dislike a certain group of people because you had bad experience for such group in the past, and then you give harsh comment about them based on the particular experience you had last time. You need to learn that it was from the past and it has absolutely nothing to do with the different individuals or group.5. Too possessive when people show least interest on you
Sometimes you want to get certain attention for others, but there's no saying that people should treat you the same way you treat them, and when you trying to ask for others to respond back as much as how you approach them, they eventually feel irritated or to some extend, felt threaten like you trying to invade their "safe zone".This is commonly happen between a salesman and his customer. Some salesman try to get closer to their targeted customer to explain their products or services even though the customer reject him and trying to walk away. As the salesman trying to get much closer to explain more and hope that the customer will stop and listen, the customer walk faster instead. Same concept.
6. You refuse to solve problem
Sadly, this world is all about problem solving. There are tons of real life problem that people don't solve or people don't care, but it's natural that people want to lead a life without problem. You probably know someone or certain people who only wants to talk about problem, but they never put effort to solve anything.It's the same when you repeat same type of problem to others even if you know what is wrong and how you should deal with it, refuse to solve the problem give the impression that you are living with the same problem all the time, and most likely you will fall into a deep cycle of endless problem later in your life.
7. You dislike agree with others
No one likes to agree with your words and thoughts all the time and being criticize on their own idea and thinking. The conventional stuff, 4+3 equal to 7, same goes for 5+2, 6+1, and so on. Your 4+3 equal to 7, so does others who thinking of 5+2 and 6+1.8. You always comment that people are not as experience as you
You may have gone through something that make yourself far more experience than others, but don't forget that everyone is granted with 24 hours just like you. They might not be as experience as you in one thing but they definitely better than you at other field. As a matter of fact, no one likes people who keep putting themselves in high position all the time and talking in a way that others are lower than them.9. Putting your mask at specific time
It's scary because people eventually get dilemma on which mash they are looking at when they know that you have too much of masks, and you practice changing masks at specific time. At one point you be good with this person, but behind the stage you talk bad about him/her. People couldn’t help to think that you might do the same behind his/her back too.People prefer to be more relax and less cautious being with a person. It's difficult for a person to breath when they had their mask on, and it's tough for others because they couldn't what is the hidden expression behind those masks.
10. Keep doing things that you dislike and complaint about it all the time
You might not know how funny it seems when people keep seeing others doing something, and then complain about what they had just did. Sometimes it's quite understandable especially when it comes to work or we are doing something for other reason, despite dislike on the process itself. But that's something you need to work out to accept the process rather than hating what you did.11. Telling people that you are always bad
This will always leave people speechless after you done it too many times. Not only that you are demonstrating that you are extremely lacking of confident, it also cause people to think of you as really bad at something or many things not because you are in fact really bad at it, but you are indirectly convincing others to think so,12. Thinking that letting out anger is good and constantly doing it
Keeping your anger deep inside the heart is not healthy, I truly understand that. But who in this world doesn’t feel angry or mad when the situation make them so? But you don’t see people keep screaming and shouting whenever they want, because it’s appropriate to learn to control your temper and resolve your anger into behavior that helps in the situation, not practicing your negative feeling on others and think about how to handle things later.13. Put little effort, but tell people you tried your best
You are not even trying, and people dislike people who refuse to put much effort but wanted to get something great in return. It’s actually really obvious when you put too little effort in one thing because all efforts definitely produce something. You can’t just spend all time and effort in something but you get no result at all, unless you put effort into the wrong thing. In the end of the day, end result tells it all.You don’t need to list out all the specific details of your effort, but you need to be able to explain to people what you had learnt and experience even if you can’t achieve the expected result, rather than saying “I tried my best” and expect people to belief so.
14. Telling people to follow your path
Everyone has their own successful story and experience, so do you and I. It’s greatly depending on different individual when comes to following the path of others. If a person foresees a specific path that they want to follow, they will eventually seek for it without anyone telling them. When you try to convince people to do and think things the same way you do even though you think it’s beneficial for them, you need to understand that what you think is good for them doesn’t mean that’s what they want and how they want things to be.15. Try to involve yourself in everything
It can be helpful sometimes, but not all the time especially when people did not ask for it. This can be an act of kindness but you need to know that sometimes people don’t need more people to involve into their business. And in serious case, if you keep trying to involve in every single matter of a person, he or she probably felt that someone is invading their life for every life event and decision they wanted to make, which is like your father trying to get involve when you meet with your friends, like he wanted to know how you usually talk & behave, and what type of topic you usually talk about, although he has no such intention at all.16. Keep talking about yourself and emphasize on your achievements
Sharing is caring, but you need to know what you are sharing now. First of all, it can be offending when you keep emphasize on your own self and achievement when you just want to share your happiness with them. It’s like you keep talking about how good is your boyfriend or girlfriend, while the other people do not have a partner. Second, you probably make other people bored because you are like forcing them to read a biography of yourself with all your great achievement. Seriously, no matter how close you are with the others, they usually not really into this.17. You constantly curse people
No matter what reason you have for cursing people, others definitely be afraid that you might do the same at them one day later. Because you are equip with such habit and you are practicing on it. Furthermore, you can’t expect people to feel okay when you constantly cursing people just because your feeling so, because it’s really ugly.18. You give minimal response
Obviously, it’s very boring. It’s like talking to a cat and the cat don’t really care about you. When you try to start up a conversation with others, you definitely don’t expect them to reply with a simple “Okay” or few words answer, which is for the sake of respond to what you had said, and has no intention to continue on with your conversation.19. Practice excessive rights on everything
When you feel that the restaurant is not giving it’s best service, you make a huge fuss about it and want to see the manager because you think you are qualified to make a complaint. That’s partially right but you always need to remember that paying for food/service doesn’t make you the boss. So when you have the right on something, always remember that your rights are granted by them, and you don’t deserve everything.20. Being sarcastic on every serious issue
I believe everyone should understand this very well. No one like to talk about a serious matter but the other person reply you with joke and make fun of what you said.21. You think it’s alright to cause little physical pain to others
Smack a little on your friend’s shoulder probably feel that’s what close friends do. But the problem is, you don’t know how much pain they had felt when you do so. It can be very wrong to think that you are only putting very little strength when you doing it, while you are touching on real flesh and bone so you can’t expect your “little strength” definitely don’t make people feel anything. And, it’s natural that no one like to feel painful, no matter how friendly you think it is.22. You demand without giving back anything
Taking things for granted is a slow and effective relationship killer in many cases, especially when you got close with another person. Some times it could be a small thing, like eating in your friend's place frequently. As time goes by, your friend eventually felt that he or she is there just to be your free chef if you never give anything in return. It's not the matter of being greedy for human nature, just that you need to remember that people need to sacrifice on time and effort for your demand and it's unnatural for them to do so like they have unlimited resources for it.23. You talk all you want, all the time
The thing that would goes wrong when you keep talking is making people feel bored, and you might turn good mood into bad mood. I'm serious about this. Imagine if you are having a good mood to spend the day enjoying great food and nice place, but there is just somebody there non-stop talking about random stuff about his or her own interest and point of view, that's more than enough to destroy a nice day that you could had spent to make the day nice and relax. And it's not even considered as a conversation when the other person just keep on with endless talking.24. You exaggerate on someone wrongful behavior
Someone might make mistake, that doesn't means it's alright to make it sounds worst for the others. Even if you don't consider that others deserve another chance so you should stop mentioning about his or her wrongful behavior, you are not honest and accusing others. The one who commit the mistake could be wrong, but it's the same for you to commit another type of wrongful behavior.25. You blame others for your behavior and feeling
I have to assume that you are not a child, and even teenager begin to learn to take up their own responsibility for all feeling and behavior of their own. It's subjective for the feeling part as feeling usually depending on external event, but you should not use it as the reason for your own behavior because that's purely depending on your own decision. So you can't hit someone that say that they are asking for it, even if they really ask you to. So, you really need to learn to be an adult to know how to be responsible for whatever you do and think.
