Cruel Fact & Reality

WARNING: This article can be really sensitive and deep right into your heart without any disguise to make you feel better while pointing out people weaknesses. It's recommended that you keep on reading only if you could accept it and put your personal feeling aside.

Life is cruel, we all can say it very well. I heard too many people saying the same thing and telling me this. I'm pretty sure that they are not totally confident that they are clear of the cruel facts in the world and had passed the stage that accepting every cruelty of life, it is just a way for them to express their depression when they know that it is cruel but they can't do anything about it.

Just like you, I'm also a human that survive in this world and all of us, willingly or not, need to learn the cruelty of life. Not just to see how pitiful this world is, and not to feel desperate that our power is too small to change anything, but to clearly understand what are they and we need to learn one important fact: how we should think about it and how are we suppose to get rid or avoid from it.

• If you are poor, but you have no saving and not willing to seek better way to earn more, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you want someone better, but you are not putting effort to be a better person so you couldn’t get any better partner, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you are fat, you are not happy about it but you are not willing to exercise and control your diet, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you are not good at something, you want it but you don’t improve your skill, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you dislike your current job, but you still stick to it despite how many complaints you had each day, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you really dislike your partner, but you do not want to let go due to your own personal reason or feeling, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you hate the current situation you are in, but you are not willing to move away from it, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you are not brave enough, and you lose what you desire, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you feeling desperate, but you choose to do nothing and let things happen by itself, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you are disliked by many people, but you don’t do anything to improve people impression on you, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you don’t treat yourself well, so others treat you the same way you treat yourself, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you are tired of achieving people expectation, but you never reject people expectation, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you are sad that people never learn what you truly feel and think, but you never voice out, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you couldn’t find get a partner you want to get one but you ask too much and didn’t give any patient and true effort, you deserve it.
  
  
• If you are facing lots of problem, but you usually choose to avoid or run away, you deserve it.
  
  

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Real Fact About Maturity

Maturity is a high achievement that define a person advance level of thinking that has unique self value and able to produce massive benefits to own self and people around him or her in a life long process. It's something that need to try really hard to achieve and advance to that level. That's how many people think, although I consider it's not really true to think that we need to put great effort to become mature, because it's not all about being mature in thinking.

Most often, people prefer being mature instead of another side. The common reasons for such preference is mainly due to mature thinking manage to produce many good decision making and reduce troubles in life, and in many occasions. Therefore many people think that mature is all about thinking in a mature way, but did not realize what mature people usually do is not just thinking things right, but also consider and behave in the right way using good logical thinking to achieve the great result that is good in many ways. Therefore, maturity is a mindset, but it's depending on your perception and behavior to determine how mature you are.

Beware, there are a lot of fallacies out there about maturity. One of the common fallacies is to think that we will eventually became mature as we aged, which is totally wrong. Maturity is a life long process, there is no end of it. And there is no absolute truth to say that people definitely get mature when they aged, because you can always find people with older age decide something that is totally against the goods of many people but only good in his or her own mindset. Also, been through and experience a lot in one same thing doesn't mean you are mature enough to make the right decision. This can be subjective especially if a person begin something with an incorrect mindset.

To ensure that you are on the right track to maturity, don't try to think in a mature way because there is no absolute guideline for people to follow to make you a mature person. Rather, you need to practice sound and ethical thinking and behavior to get to that level, and to make everything better in your life.

You can find large amount of guide or list from internet about what to think and do to become mature, below are some list to begin with:

Mindset & Behavior for Maturity

1. Time is limited, every seconds can cause big change in life.
2. Saving won't make anyone rich.
3. Money don't bring happiness, earning more doesn't guarantee rich and happiness
4. Spending more doesn't bring back the right value and more capital, spending right is.
5. Problems are not meant to be worried over and over again, it's meant to be solved. If you can't solve it, you are not the right person to worry about.
6. It's important to meet people who are rich in knowledge and experience, not only rich in money.
7. Opportunity is reachable only when you make effort to reach it.
8. Regrets can be a misery for a lifetime
9. Your trouble is meant to be shared with people that can be trusted, instead of keep it all in your heart
10. Success don't comes to you as you aged.
11. What people said about you is what they think, not your actual self. It's true only when you accept it.
12. True value is hidden, can only be seen by heart and true understanding. And it's not measured by the size and unit in physical term.
13. "Failed to plan is plan to failed" is always true.
14. Truth is always better than rumors.
15. Success and achievement is produced by own effort, not given by people.
16. When involve in a negative situation, think about how to improve and avoid mistake yourself, and not how other people should be blamed and changed.
17. Understand that ego should be thrown away and accept lose, defeat, and mistake of ownself.
18. True success is not how many people think that you are successful.
19. Accept that there are always people who are better than you.
20. Clearly aware and appreciate every good and bad things in your life.
21. Understand that success, power, and wealth is nothing important than true happiness.

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My Life Perspective

1. Problem is meant to be solve, not to be avoided or running away from it. Every problem is an obstacle for us to become stronger.
   
   
2. We don’t need to be at least age 50 to be successful and experience. Many young entrepreneurs had proven on this.
   
   
3. Been through something doesn’t mean we definitely learn the right thing.
   
   
4. Nothing could be gain without true effort and capability. Even if you get something by luck, it’s not belongs to you.
   
   
5. Living for other’s expectation will suppress your true self. It’s another mean of spending all your lifetime for others and leave nothing for yourself.
   
   
6. You are responsible for all your feeling, emotion, and behavior, unless you are being threatened by someone.
   
   
7. Complaint without putting effort or thinking to change is total waste of time and get you further from better life.
   
   
8. Time is the key to everything, including success and failure.
   
   
9. Learn the cruelty of life. Not because you need to practice how to be cruel, but to accept and seek ways to avoid them.
   
   
10. Forgive others not because you need to accept their wrong-doing, but because you need to let go of grudges.
    
    
11. No matter how much you want to be successful, do not harm others in the process of getting it.
    
    
12. Money has no value, it’s just an outcome from your valuable experience, skill, knowledge and effort.
    
    
13. When people throwing their negative emotion on you, it’s not that you are totally wrong, it’s just that they are practicing their ugly self.
    
    
14. Able to accept failure and defeat is much more powerful than being successful.
    
    
15. When you think that you want to do something later, you risk not doing it and letting a good opportunity fade away.
    
    
16. You are wasting your life and betting yourself to get infinite regrets if you think loving yourself has no value and it’s wasting time.
    
    
17. Being passionate is the key to create value in everything you do.
    
    
18. Happiness are from small and simple things. It does not require huge amount of money and effort to obtain it. More complicating view in happiness get you further from happiness.
    
    
19. Past is what made us today. Not some ugly history or destiny.
    
    
20. Certificate and age don’t prove your knowledge. True knowledge is when you know and able to identify what is right and wrong.
    
    
21. Honesty can make you lost something, but to be able to face the world without a mask is one great achievement to live without regrets.
    
    

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